Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Realistically, Behind the Scenes

I started this blog nearly 1.5 years ago as an outlet for photography, creativity, and positive documentation.  Life was (and continues) to be stressful and I wanted a place that was all my own, to freely create and write my whimsies.  So far, I think I've done a fairly good job at keeping Lumière & Lens a positive place: I share adventures, good times, and photographs I love, while keeping mention of the negatives to a bare minimum.  When I have a particularly uninspired or perhaps rough week, I've refrained from posting at all.   

However, that's not realistic, is it? 

One of the main complaints people have about social media is the illusion of a great life because only positive moments and achievements are shared.  In the age of blogging as a career, Instagram-curation, and personal branding, there's both pressure and expectation to maintain an image.  While Lumière & Lens, in all its aspects, and I are far from perfect, my adherence to showing just the highlights makes me an active contributor to the problem.  

Many of you commented on how I maintained my optimistic attitude on a day where nothing went right recently.  Truth be told, I'm naturally a very pessimistic person.  I consciously work against that nature, because it's draining to both myself and others around me.  Wallowing, complaining, and self-pity is the easier, downhill process against which I fight.  However, it doesn't mean that behind the scenes, I don't have myself a good rant, or struggle to kick myself out of it.

Towards the end of this past weekend, I was feeling unhappy, irritable, and frustrated, which I didn't share.  You get the happiness, not the moodiness.  You see the clean flatlays and not the mess of laundry on my bedroom floor.  I told you about happy I was to see my best friend, but not how sad I was to see her go because it's like parting with family.  I thought, "Nobody reads a blog to hear complaining."

When I'm having a rough time, I avoid Lumière & Lens, but I don't think that creates the most realistic representation.  I'm not going to start posting diatribes, but I want to acknowledge that it's not all light, all the time.  Not every moment makes it to the highlights reel, but they're not less worthy of a mention. 


  1. It's your blog, Alyse, post whatever you feel like posting. I'm naturally pessimistic myself but in that entry you mentioned, I could never have handled that situation as positively as you did. So, kudos to you for that! I admire you a lot ♥

    Also, absolutely loving the new blog layout :)

  2. I feel similarly. When I'm negative, I feel bad about putting negative vibes out there, so I try not to. Sometimes I do write about those negative feelings, but I try not to get too heavy. But also, I always write after the fact, so when I reflect upon my negativity, I often think "wow that was so lame," so I don't get too into it :P -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey's

  3. I can definitely relate to you when it comes to posting about positive aspects and avoid sharing the negative things. Even though it's not realistic to be 100% all the time, I see fewer regrets when it comes to reviewing old blog posts in the future. I found myself deleting a lot of my old blog posts because they shed a negative light. I've seen some blog posts that wasn't exactly 'good news' but was written beautifully and didn't sound complaining- so I suppose the way the post was presented plays a big role as well. :)

  4. I'm a natural pessimist too but it's funny how everyone who meets me think I'm always so smiley (which I am!)! I think we all try to be brave and try not to get too caught up with the bad = a good thing but it's good once it a while to let all that frustration out - either behind the scenes or with us! Hope your week is going better.

  5. I feel the same way especially when I'm so stressed out at work but I don't want to fill my blog with my complaints. I know life isn't perfect for anyone and we are all trying hard to be better.

  6. i think it's about acknowledging and owning the lows, y'know? lawd, i don't know about people but damn sometimes seeing picture perfect bloggers irked me. i want to see the struggles. even if it's just how you combat your acne probs. can't be more real than that, right??? honesty will always be appreciated. be it in loud caps or soft whisper accompanied by tears. to post or not to post, how regretful would that be?